🧸𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 & 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 (𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘀𝗵𝘆)

𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘻𝘦 🦋 ⋮ ᴀ ꜱᴘᴇᴄɪᴀʟ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ Qᴜɪᴇᴛ ᴏɴᴇs 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘂𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝘁. 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁𝘀? 𝗪𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗵 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝗶𝘀𝗲. 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽? 𝗜𝘁 𝗯𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗺𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲𝘀. 𝘚𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦~ 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦. 𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 1✨ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆 𝗕𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 ✧ Walk like you’re open to connection~ 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘰𝘶𝘴. ✧ 𝗘𝘆𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗰𝘁 + 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗲 = you just unlocked “approachable mode”(≖ᴗ≖ ) ✧ Don’t underestimate presence. People sense warmth before words. ❥𝙏𝙧𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨𝙚𝙩: “𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐’𝘮 𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘩𝘪.” Say that in your head. Repeat until fear shrinks~ 𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 2✨ 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗰𝗲👀 𝘖𝘬𝘢𝘺, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵'𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦😼. 𝘚𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 <3 Real examples you can use today: ✦ “Hey, you’re in [insert class/group/etc.] too, right?” ✦ “I love your [bag/shoes/vibe]~ where’d u get it?” ✦ “This place is kinda chaotic, huh?” (𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 = 𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘯𝘥) ✦ “I’m trying to make new friends. What’s your name?” (𝘣𝘰𝘭𝘥 & 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘰👻 ) 𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙫𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙨? 𝙎𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙨. 𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙧𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 3✨ 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗮𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 "𝗛𝗶" 𝘖𝘬𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘥😆. 𝘕𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵?😅 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗩𝗜𝗕𝗘 𝗕𝗥𝗜𝗗𝗚𝗘: ✧ 𝐀𝐬𝐤 + 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 → “What music are you into lately?” → “OMG I’ve been looping that one too!” ✧ 𝐀𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝: 𝐲𝐞𝐬/𝐧𝐨 𝐐𝐬. 𝐆𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞: → “What do you usually do when you’re not here?” ✧ Share a 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 about yourself. Let them meet the real you. 𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗧𝗢 𝗗𝗘𝗔𝗟 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗔𝗪𝗞𝗪𝗔𝗥𝗗 𝗦𝗜𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗖𝗘𝗦.. 𝗮𝗸𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗺𝘆😭 𝘖𝘬𝘢𝘺, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘣𝘶𝘵… 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵, 𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦?💀 ✦ Embrace it. “I always get these weird pauses…so awkward, right?” (laughter breaks tension) ✦ Ask about school stuff: → “What do you think of that last lecture?” → “Any tips for surviving finals? I need all the help!” ✦ Relate to their answer, no need to fill the silence with pressure~ just respond naturally: → “I totally get that. I was stressed too.” 𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗣 4✨ 𝗠𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗦𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗸 ✧ Invite them for small things: “Wanna grab a drink after this?” ✧ DM something related: “You mentioned loving cozy cafés.. this reminded me of you!”🦋 ✧ 𝗟𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗛𝗮𝗰𝗸𝘀 ✧ - 𝗕𝗲 𝗬𝗢𝗨: Forget trying to impress. Authenticity beats forced conversation every time. - 𝗚𝗼 𝗦𝗹𝗼𝘄: Small talk > big talk. It’s all about building comfort. - 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱: Whether it’s a podcast, a show, or a random fact, shared vibes are where connections start. - 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗨𝗽: You already do it best. Ask them about their favorite thing and let them talk. Want to be interesting? Just be interested. People love feeling heard.. 🦋 ⋮ ʀᴇᴍɪɴᴅᴇʀꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ Qᴜɪᴇᴛ ꜱᴏᴜʟꜱ ✦ 𝘠𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 “𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦.” 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘺𝘦𝘵. ✦ 𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘰𝘬𝘢𝘺 𝘪𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘰𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘧𝘭𝘰𝘸—𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨. ✦ 𝘖𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘸𝘬𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘺 > 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘴. ✦ 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘵𝘰? 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺’𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮. ✦ 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘵. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵. ✦ 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙠, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩'𝙨 𝙊𝙆... 🌬 ᴀ ꜰɪɴᴀʟ ᴡʜɪꜱᴘᴇʀ... 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘂𝗱. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹. 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱, 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲’𝘀 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗲𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𖦹 🧸𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗮𝘆 𝗵𝗶. 𝘀𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗹𝘆. 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲𝗹𝘆-𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗳𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗹 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀. • 𝖯𝗈𝗌𝗍'𝗌 𝗂𝖽𝖾𝖺 𝖿𝗋𝗈𝗆 @stardust

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